About my hair journey!

My last protective style, love my braids!

I want to start this post by saying that not because a person has what others call "good hair", "soft hair", "Paña hair", or whatever you may want to call it, that doesn't mean that a person hasn't struggled with their hair. Let me tell you my story....

Ever since I was a little girl I remember having UGLY hair. Yes. That's right. My hair was softer than both my sisters' and my mothers', therefore it should have been easier right? Nope, not quite. My mother treated my hair exactly the same way she treated my sisters and I remember at a young age trying to take control over it, which didn't go too well. I cut, dyed, permed and burnt my hair with a hot comb, all before the age of 15. Why? Well because I didn't like it! It was different in a bad way. It was frizzy, it grew outwards instead of downward, people made fun of me and my parents were NOT supportive and didn't know what to do. So fast forward to my adult years, I still struggled with my ugly hair. It was just never pretty and I would perm it twice a year so i could manage it but it was always a messy mess, only looked good on pictures, as soon as the flash died, so would my hair. 

In November 2010, after being nearly harassed by my friend Debz, a.k.a. Debzdaceleb, I was convinced to try "her ways" and go back to natural so I could find that "beautiful curl pattern" that she often say that I had. And Lawd, it's been quite a journey!

It's been almost four years now and I must confess that I have been this ( ) close to giving up MANY times. I've threatened to cut it, perm it, burn it, you name it, but it's all due to the frustrating multiple texture situation, which makes me look like I have uneven hair, it gets tangled and sometimes I just don't feel like dealing with it so I'm a huge fan of protective styling and that's why I still have hair. LOL Regardless of all of that, I LOVE my hair and wouldn't change my journey to discovery for anything in the world!

Now to the important part of all of this, my hair journey opened up so many other journeys. For the first time in my life I was less preoccupied about people's opinions of me. I sometimes don't even wear makeup (whaaat??), I know!  I just really feel free! 
My style is way more relaxed than it has ever been, too relaxed at times. (LOL) I mean, I still enjoy dressing up and looking nice but I feel so great that if caught makeup-less I won't have to faint and pretend I'm dead. (Cause that's how serious it was)... Needless to say, my self-esteem was impacted positively, my whole outlook on life has changed and I've become such a positive, stress-free person!  But this is not because of my hair, it's because in finding my hair roots, I also found myself, I finally know and LOVE who I am. 
So although one thing led to another, one thing doesn't define the other. My hair doesn't define me, it just helped me FIND me. (Corny, I know. But true!)

I don't tell anybody what to do what their hair, I think everyone can decide what works for them and we should all respect that, I can only tell my story and hope that it will inspire others to find themselves as well! 

Peace & Love! ♥